Dealing with loss, depression and other intense challenges

Dealing with loss, depression and other intense challenges

by Pastor Lam on November 15, 2016 in
He was one of the wealthiest men in the East and was reputed for having the largest herd of cattle and a great deal of servants on his payroll. Only few men could match up with Job’s wealth and assets. He was what you might want to call a ‘Forbes list personality’. He was godfearing and had a thriving home; his kids were also doing well in their various fields of endeavor.
Job’s life was the ideal life until tragedy struck on this fateful day when news reached him that all his kids perished in a whirlwind that collapsed the building they lodged in and that a bushfire that quickly developed into a huge inferno consumed his herd of cattle along with his servants who led the cattle to graze in the bush. As If that was not bad enough, he was also made to realise that all of his servants, except one, were killed in a fight that ensued between them and the Chaldeans.
In short, in a day Job lost his wealth and his kids. Can you imagine how devastating that would have been for him? Imagine the pain and grief. Not many of us can relate with the kind of loss that Job experienced but some of us may have experienced gut-wrenching losses at certain points in our lives. When you lose someone or something very precious to you, the grief can be intense. Pain, sad memories, and unanswered questions can haunt you.
You may even feel that you’ll never be the same- that you’ll never laugh or be whole again. That you might never make that money again, or that you might never find true love again or that your child might never grow up as a normal child etc. Take heart, though there is no way to grieve without pain, there are healthy ways to grieve which allow you to constructively move forward. Don’t settle for a life drained of joy – work through loss and, slowly but surely, you will get better. After a serious loss, we sometimes want to do something, anything- to dull the pain. Submitting to a harmful habit like drug use, alcohol abuse, oversleeping, Internet overuse, or wanton promiscuity threatens your wellbeing and leaves you vulnerable to addiction and further pain.
You’ll never truly heal until you confront the loss. Ignoring the pain caused by the loss or sedating yourself with distractions will only work for so long- no matter how fast you run from it, eventually, your grief will overtake you. Confront your loss. Allow yourself to cry or grieve in another way that feels natural. Only by first acknowledging your grief can you begin to defeat it. More so, you should also know that God is not responsible for your loss and He wants to help you heal from your pain. There is always this tendency to begin to question God’s love and care for us in times of pain. You should know that God’s love does not immune you from certain pain and losses.
Do not base His love for you on external circumstances because external circumstances are subject to change but His love remains immutable. So when the sense of loss seems overwhelming, try these:
1. Cry to God to in prayer.  If you wanna cry, cry- girl or boy, man or woman. God is not against you crying. Weep at His feet and let Him know how you feel.
2. Also, It’s healthy to seek out people who will take care of you when you’re suffering. If you can’t find a friend, talk to your Pastor or a counselor.
3. Meditate on Scriptures and act!- Let the distress you feel cause you to seek and find solutions to your issues. Don’t just cry, don’t just pray, don’t only hope, don’t just listen. Act and make progress. It may seem difficult at first but use Scriptures such as these;
*1 John 4:4 Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world.
*1 John 5:4 For whatsoever is born of God overcometh the world: and this is the victory that overcometh the world, [even] our faith.
*Romans 8:37-39 Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
When you meditate on such Scriptures you’ll find yourself screaming in victory in no time. Your life will light up and you’ll be incredibly invigorated to take actions that greatly improve your state. Never give up!
We love you and if you’re in Nigeria, dealing with mental health issues and depression pls use these hotlines to reach professionals who can help you get better.
Nigeria Suicide Prevention Initiative
Phone: 08062106493, 08092106493
Mentally Aware Nigeria Initiative
Phone- 08060101157
Instagram- @mentallyawareng
Address- 70, Olonode Street, off Alagomeji Yaba Lagos.
Story culled from the book of Job in the Holy Bible
Written by- Jide Akinbuwa
Edited by Pastor Lams, for the Pastor Lams Blog ������
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